Dear friend,
How are you and how are you holding up in this trying times? If you’re plus size and you’re stereotypical about it and/or are bothered about it, this letter is for you.
A plus size lady is a beautiful lady. And you in particular are beautiful and, more importantly, special. Plus size ladies experiencing name-calling, sexualization and stereotypes, kindly digest this.
Whoever calls you a name over your body mass is flatly ignorant and you’d come to terms with this at the end of this letter as a story is better understood from the end.
On getting sexualized, there are different kinds of men in this world, just as we have precious stones and common ones. You’d agree with me, the precious ones are rarer. In this way, there are lesser men who understand chivalry and know and respect the sensibility and sensitivity of ladies. Of the blithe class of men, you’d get those that’d sexualize women irrespective of their body types. It’s definitely and technically not just you, and hence it’d be unfair and toxic on you to hastily predicate this social vice on your body.
Whatever the degree of your body mass, you’re actually amazing and so must hold up your face and standards and ensure that that mental wellness is in place. Further, while sexualization is insulting, the perpetrator doesn’t see it that way. If they do and if they know how special you are, they wouldn’t do that. It’s coming partly from ignorance and partly from an unbridled jovial heart; so they think their interlocutor see things the same way they do. Further still, they aren’t really searching for, but are only being light-hearted which is unacceptable and that’s their own unseriousness which has nothing to do with you. Sensible men know that though looks are important, the mind is paramount.
You mustn’t allow that you’re a thick lady get into your head. And, your consciousness mustn’t revolve around it. That’s being unfair, toxic and unjust. You’re more than just a thick lady, so that can’t be what gains ascendancy in your mind. Where a person compliments your body and nothing more, do not overthink it or get hurt or offended by it. Because, it could have been warranted by anything. It’s definitely not what you’d be thinking. Again, it could be anything and this is technical.
My dear friend, declutter every stress erupting from this issue and flourish. Plus size is by no means a hindrance or something like that. Men including you must stop seeing what you’re not and can’t do and start seeing what you are and can do. A plus size lady is a lady in her own right. What I mean is, slender isn’t how women should be, as some may seem to wrongly think.
There’s a gross misconception that plus size ladies can’t marry. Ignore such thinking and let no one pressure you into doing what you’d regret on the long run. You on the contrary want to go in your own pace. If you think that you being a plus size lady can’t get a husband, you’re wrong and are just overthinking things, and to be honest that’s ridiculous. There’s nothing wrong or shameful in being plus size. And that beautiful body deserves to enjoy some pride and showcasing (outgoing) and not shame, despondence and concealment — again that’d be ridiculous.
You have to be happy about whom you are. If you want to be loved by others, you must first love yourself. It’s like respecting yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, others will perceive that energy and return the same to you. So, you definitely want to show yourself some love. Your body is nothing but a blessing.
Civilly, don’t let any one body-shame you or make you feel bad over your body. Your body in itself is beautiful. You are beautiful and besides your aspect, there are myriad of awesome things about you. Remember, civilly let no one body-shame you or make you feel bad over your body as they’re only victimizing you for nothing.
Ingrain in you that you’re special and that’s all you need.
In conclusion, I’d blame our society for making it look as though being slender is the beginning and end of beauty. We definitely need more celebration of our big bold and beautiful ladies.
Warmth,
Dubai Tour Pro
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